“Plant your own garden and decorate your own soul instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.” ~ Veronica Shoffstall I’ve read this passage over and over and can’t believe how empowering these words are for almost any situation. And it’s particularly poignant if you’ve lost a loved one and are now on your own. You’ve been part of a couple for so long
One of the hardest things to deal with when you are newly single is how life continues to whirl along without any regard to the trauma which you have just gone through. You’re still moving back and forth between your “before” life and where you are now as you try to get comfortable with this new role of yours. You have your days where you
Just like that, with the stroke of a pen, it’s over. No more strategy sessions. No more jockeying. No more discussion. No more “we.” You stand up with a slight hesitation as you hear them say that you’re free to go. “Go where?” you say, almost out loud. You feel like the proverbial deer in headlights as the attorneys head for the door. And so
Nothing triggers an elevation in anxiety quite like a jury duty summons. There’s the invasion of privacy thought (where the hell did they get my name from?), the lizard brain fear (how the hell do I get out of this?), and the long anticipation of having to change your entire life because you know you will be selected for a case that will last forever.
In the glistening of the rising sun, you pray he comes to you. You close your eyes and try to feel him but sadness is not easy to penetrate. You move within the home you created together and it echos with emptiness. The dog lifts his head with each breeze begging for him to come through the door. And your mind keeps taking you